3 Things To Do When Leading in Conflict

It had been a cold Sunday morning. After our church service, we trooped to our favorite coffee shop for our regular Sunday breakfast. Our kids played after they’d stuffed their bellies while my wife and I had some time to ourselves and discussed some ideas for our business.

As we were driving home, excited about the prospect of those ideas, my wife interjected. “Why don’t we pick up some vegetables and fruits at the green grocer’s?” She asked. However, I was looking forward to heading straight home and get started on building our future.

“What harm does delaying it for an hour make,” I thought to myself. And off we went.

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How Social Age Leaders Find Courage Through Perspective

order_stackYou’re about to embark on a new endeavor – or maybe you’re already into it, but success hasn’t clicked yet.

Maybe it’s a new project at work. Perhaps you’ve started your own business. Maybe your new task is moving your team or organization into the Social Age. Pull it off, and you’re a hero.

No matter what your goal – it’s scary. I know. I’ve been there several times now. At various times over my career, I’ve played the motivated career-builder within someone else’s company. I’m also a compulsive business-founder (much to my poor wife’s chagrin). In fact, I’m there again yet: our baby, Switch & Shift, has passed from crawling through toddling and now walking quite well. We’re about to watch it run for the first time, and are ready for the inevitable stumbles.

And we will stumble. We will fall and skin our knees. We might even break a leg.

What if you do? Your project, business and-or Social Age migration may not be the success you dreamed it would be, at least not right away. Then where will you be?

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When ‘Trapdoor Leaders’ Strike!

medium_3225992351Some time back, I worked for a very ‘interesting’ employer (no pun intended). I chose the term interesting because I decided to look at the brighter side of the whole experience.

When the phone on my desk would ring, I felt like a bucket of icy cold water had been poured over my head. If the caller ID showed one of two people I dreaded engaging with, it was like someone had just viciously extracted my heart without any anesthesia.

This is a classic description of people who lead from a position of weakness. They instil fear in those they lead. Their followers are constantly on edge, wondering just when the lever on the trapdoor will suddenly open and swallow them whole. These type of people hold followers ransom and place a noose around their necks. One slip up and the noose does its job… an unnecessary reprimand, a warning letter in your file, or worse still, loss of your job.

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The ‘Operating Theatre’ Of A Business

1459839_686750981399400_7363868686921980698_nThis guest post was written by Mr. Strive Masiyiwathe Executive Chairman and Founder of the Econet Wireless Group. It was originally published on his Facebook Page. I am honored to have the privilege to share your message forward Mr. Masiyiwa…

A friend of mine, who is a very good surgeon came to see me one day. As we chatted away, he lamented that as a prominent citizen, he felt unappreciated.

This was because no one had ever asked him to sit on the board of a major company or even a not-for-profit foundation. It was clear that he hoped that I would either appoint him to a board, or recommend him to one.

“Let’s do a trade,” I suggested, after a pause. “You see, when I was young, I could not make up my mind whether to study engineering, or to do medicine. Even today, I sometimes wish I had become a doctor… If you arrange for me to come to the operating theater, and to help you do a small operation, I will arrange for you, to sit on a board.”

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3 Fatherhood Thoughts for Leadership

medium_3647969038“The thinks you can think” by Dr. Seuss was running through my mind when I woke up this morning. It is Father’s Day, but what does that mean? I remember some thought I had nearly nine years ago. “Any man can father, but not all can be a father.” My worry was if I was good enough to hold the title of Daddy.

Looking back, and three children later, I can confidently say that my fears might have been overinflated and out-of-focus. The becoming was not just biological or the passage of time. It was something that I had to fetch from deep within my soul. That becoming involved sacrifice, courage and big dreams.

I have to admit that being a father has entrenched some deep passion for authentic leadership. It means looking beyond myself at all times and in every action I take. Even when I take time to unwind and rebuild, I frequently ask myself how that can help me to recharge in order to serve better and bigger.

Let me share with you three precious leadership qualities fatherhood has taught me. These are patience, presence, and practice.

Patience, according to Wikipedia, is the state of endurance under difficult circumstances, which can mean persevering in the face of delay or provocation without acting on annoyance/anger in a negative way; or exhibiting forbearance when under strain, especially when faced with longer-term difficulties. Patience is the level of endurance one can take before negativity. [TweetMe]

For as long as they could belt out a shout as toddlers, all our children call out to me at night. For some of you night owls, this may be a walk in the park. But I am like a chicken, when the sun rises I wake up and when it sets, my shut-eye begins. So waking up three times in the middle of the night is a BIG deal for me. At first, I was uptight about it. But I began to treasure the fact that I was on the front seat of our children’s growth.

As I developed my character trait of being steadfast, it began to affect my relationships and leadership. My ‘short-fuse’ grew a little longer with time. I was becoming more appreciative of other people and also value their contributions more.

Presence is the state or fact of existing, occurring, or being present. I especially loved a meaning from the 1570s meaning carriage, demeanor, aspect and that of divine, spiritual or incorporeal being felt as present from 1660s. Although I had made a choice of being present for my family, I did not fully appreciate the work I’d have to put into it.

It meant coming up with memories for my family. I craved for anecdotes that one day we could all look back to with nostalgia. One night, we had such a heavy downpour that our backyard was left under four inches of water. Looking at the flotilla of garden equipment and toys floating on the water, it was a little depressing.

Then a light went off in my mind. Why not don our rubber boots or Crocs and play some soccer? When I got home from work that evening, that’s exactly what we did. Our older children have never forgotten that day. They talk about it with pride and knowledge of who they are and where they belong.

As a leader, not only do you have to be present. Your presence has to matter, you will have to get your hands dirty many times over. It is uncomfortable, but those you lead will remember it forever. [TweetMe]

Practice is the repeated performance or systematic exercise for the purpose of acquiring skill or proficiency. After learning patience and being present, the most difficult for me has been to keep on practicing to grow my leadership.

The pain and strain of getting into a new space of learning has left me exhausted on many occasions. However, I need to have courage to pick myself up and practice what I have learned over time. Without this, my knowledge, skill and aptitude will only but fade away. [TweetMe]

I was challenged to get out of my comfort zone two years ago. Being a father to our children was (and still is) working out pretty well. It has been comforting to know that I am great father (the votes are in from all our three children).

My challenge came in a young man who had just lost his dad to a road accident. He was hurting bad, worried for himself, his mother and siblings. He forced me to open up my heart and practice what I preached in my own home. Today, I received this email from him. I have to admit that I couldn’t help but tear up as I read it. For me, it’s one Father’s Day gift that is difficult to match.

“Id just like to let u know that you have been the closest thing to a father since Dad’s departure from this earth and in that im greatful. Even though im quiet sometimes i always know in my heart that i can confide in you and seek your council when needed. Thank you. Happy fathers day Mr.Kimunya and God bless you.” [sic]

How do you lead everyday? Please share your thoughts below…

[photo credit: scribbletaylor via photopin cc] This post is dedicated to Jeddy. You are growing into one fine man 🙂

Leaders, Are You Creating Gangs in Your Org?

My original guest blog post was published on  Todd Nielsen’s 3rd International Leadership Blogathon. What an awesome opportunity this was to serve…

 

It was just after eight in the morning. I had been on an overnight flight across three time zones. My mind was fuzzy with fatigue and eyes drowsily droopy. But shut they would not.

I grabbed my bags and headed for the train station. A few minutes after rolling out of the station, my sight was assaulted by vivid color. For the next mile, the earth-retaining walls and the back walls of buildings next to the railway tracks were covered with graffiti. And I wondered, if graffiti was this elaborate here, why was there none in the airport arrival lounge?

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Mothers are Leader Number 1

Happy Mother's Day

What does your mother mean to you?

This morning, I thought of a special type of leader. They go about their day with diligence and sometimes unnoticed. They lead from the heart, are uncompromising and loving.

Mothers are leaders beyond belief [TweetMe]. They don’t just bring us into the world, they are there when we scraped our knees, calmed us when ‘monsters’ attacked us at night, and saved the day when our stomachs threatened to ‘kill’ us. Mothers are PRESENT as they are a GIFT.

Today, I want to honor two special mothers in my life. Her Greatness Mum (my mother) and Her Highness Harriette (my best friend and the mother to our children). You are great leaders that evoke emotions and memories in us that are out of this world [TweetMe].

From our mothers, we have come to appreciate many lessons to last us a long time to come. And as someone once said, the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. So here goes…

Marmalade – Delectable, carefully prepared, and enjoyable. You care

Oatmeal – Filled with wholesome goodness. A healthy body, mind and home…

Tortilla – Our tastebuds do a crazy dance. We’re in colourful warmth

Honey – Your sweetness is unmatched. We treasure your love for us…

Eggs – A comfort for all times, good or bad. We love your magical presence

Ribs – Sticky and finger-licking good! You’re consistent even when we yo-yo…

Take the time to thank your mother. As you do so, I urge you to ponder on the following. What will it take for you to show more care, be wholesome in your approach, warm when engaging others, love more, be present for your people, and finally, consistent in your leadership.

To all mothers out there, we love you more than anything else in the whole wide world… Happy Mother’s Day! [TweetMe]

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Endurance, Fitness and Leadership

medium_4065213505It feels like we are living our lives at a break-neck speed. There is so much around us that is clamoring for our attention. Many times, it feels like I am just treading water trying to survive. There is a resignation that there just isn’t enough time to go around. It feels like I am participating in a marathon-like endurance event.

Back when I was in my happy-go-lucky at twenty’s, life was one big party that was regularly interrupted by work. Every evening, I was meeting with one group of friends or another. I was fit as a fiddle and could perform many physical activities at the drop of a hat. One fine Saturday, I woke up and remembered that our church had a fund-raising run at 10 o’clock. Two hours later, without any preparation at all, I ran fifteen kilometers. Afterwards, my body felt like it had gone through a meat grinder. In two days, however, all the aches and pains were gone. That is the power of youth that can overcome any endurance test.

What I do with the time I have determines whether I’ll grow as a leader or not. [TweetMe]

About a month ago, fifteen or so years after this event, I was part of a group of men that went climbing an innocuous-looking hill. We were to climb over an elevation of 400 meters (to 1,900 meters above sea level). It all began well. We were engrossed in conversation and the prospect of conquering this mole-hill with relative ease. The reality was different. Half-way up the hill, I discovered it was a battle for endurance. I was out of breath, my body was battered, and my spirit completely crushed. I was giving up.

My salvation was on a small yet significant set of decisions: stop, rest, refocus. This redeemed the day and I was able to catch up with everyone else and complete the climb.

Now, I had approached the climb with my twenty-five year old heart. However, I had over the years neglected an important part of my being. I had not kept my body in good physical shape. Of course, I have many hypotheses that could explain and excuse my condition. I had a career to build, a family to bring up…

What I had done was to commit the grave mistake of breaking up my life into unconnected compartments. This was plain foolish! I had forgotten was that there is only one of me. It was a major wake-up call. I needed to ensure that my physical fitness is looked into.

Leaders take time to stop, rest, and refocus. You can’t lead from confusion. [TweetMe]

I started small and joined my wife in her power-walks. It is amazing how the walking affected my mind. I felt more alive and alert. Why had I neglected my body to keep my body in shape?

The people you lead will do great things because of the influence you have on them and not the controls you impose. John C. Maxwell says this, “I believe that success is within the reach of just about everyone. But I also believe that personal success without leadership ability brings only limited effectiveness. A person’s impact is only a fraction of what it could be with effective leadership. The higher you climb, the more you need leadership. The greater the impact you want to make, the greater your influence needs to be. Whatever you accomplish is restricted by your ability to lead others.”

How then can you become a balanced leader? To influence others into leadership, you have to keep up with your leadership fitness. There is only one of you and it is impossible to split yourself! Just like my bravado reminded me when I was going up that hill, it is utterly important that you fully understand your season in life. You may have to jettison some things for other people to grow and make very careful choices.

What will you have to give up for your leadership to thrive?

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Grab their Ideas or Lose Employees

IdeaDrivenOrg_share11-300x300I am honored to host this Guest blog by award-winning author Dean M. Schroeder. Together with his co-author Alan G. Robinson, who I got the privilege to interview over my scratchy internet connection, they have written an awesome book, The Idea-Driven Organization…

 

 

 

Not long ago, the owner of a medium sized software development firm asked me a very good question. “How does a high performance idea system work in a project environment where every project is different?” We discussed that in a project-based company like his there were lots of processes that could be improved, but his question made a good point.

A project environment does have unique challenges for a high performance idea system, and there are several different tactics that can be used to integrate ideas more fully into the natural flow of projects.

Historically, high performance idea systems developed in process-based environments – think Toyota for example – where the goal is to repeatedly and consistently duplicate the same outcome. Employee ideas focus on streamlining and continuously improving the procedures, technologies, standard work, and other elements that make up relatively stable processes [TweetMe]. But a project dominated environment is often more dynamic, with each project potentially having unique elements. At the same time, projects have a natural “pulse” – a defined beginning, regular reviews, and clear ending – that can be used advantageously in idea management.

One of our favorite ways to start a project is to conduct a “pre-mortem” by asking the members of the project team the following question: “If you could get in a time machine and travel forward to a date six months after the scheduled completion of the project and found that it had been unsuccessful, what would you see as the primary causes for its failure?” The resulting discuss is often spirited and comes up with responses such as:

  • “Poor communication lead to confusion and misunderstanding,”
  • “Passive resistance from key constituents undermined the project’s effectiveness,”
  • “Supporting functions and suppliers missed deadlines and we ended up going over budget.”

Often relatively minor ideas for tweaks in the project management process or that can be easily incorporated into the project’s plan can mitigate most of the sources of failure that were identified. A good pre-mortem also starts the team off by confirming that they are responsible for the success of the project and their ideas are important to achieve that success.

Well managed projects have regular meetings to review progress, identify delays or concerns, discuss ways to deal with them, decide what actions are to be taken by whom, and generally keep everyone up to date on the progress of the project. In a number of ways these meetings are similar to idea meetings. Problems are identified, ideas for solving them are discussed, and action steps are assigned.

But there is a subtle but important difference in the goals of two types of meetings. Project meetings focus on addressing issues related to a specific project; whereas idea meetings focus on capturing ideas to help the organization continually improve [TweetMe]. At a project meeting it would be perfectly appropriate to suggest a one-time “patch” on a problem to keep everything on time or overcome a barrier; however such an action would be considered inappropriate at idea meetings with its goal of identifying and eliminating the root cause of the problem.

Regular project meetings can double as idea meetings, but in order to do so team members need to be willing to analyze issues with an eye toward identifying their causes and developing ideas that assure that the problems do not reappear with future projects. If the root cause cannot be identified and eliminated immediately, the issue should be captured and documented for further action later, often during the project close out.

Before the celebration of the completion of a project, it must be properly closed out. It is surprising how often this logical and vital step is given short shrift as team members are anxious to move on to new assignments. From an idea perspective the critical elements of a close are a thorough post-mortem that captures improvement ideas, documentation of the lessons learn throughout the project, revisiting the problems encountered along to way to see if there are any opportunities for ideas on improving the project management process, and make certain that all ideas for process changes that were decided upon are made and fully documented.

One of the more interesting challenges when putting a high-powered idea system in a project environment is that project team members are often people who already consider coming up with ideas as a major part of their jobs – engineers, designers, marketers, etc. Initially they often don’t see the need for a formal idea system. The key to implementing a system in such situations is to make as few changes as possible. Simply change the existing project management process to incorporate idea management into every step [TweetMe]. These subtle changes will usually be seen as nothing more than logical improvements that make their jobs easier in the long run.

About the Authors

Alan G. Robinson and Dean M. Schroeder are award-winning authors, consultants, and educators. They are the co-authors of the bestseller Ideas Are Free: How the Idea Revolution is Liberating People and Transforming Organizations. Between them, they have advised hundreds of organizations in more than twenty-five countries around the world on how to improve their creativity, innovativeness and overall performance. Their first book, Ideas Are Free, was voted the Reader’s Choice by Fast Company magazine and selected as one of the 30 best business books of the year by Soundview Executive Books. On March 31, 2014, Robinson and Schroeder will release their second book together, The Idea-Driven Organization (available on Amazon). Follow them on Twitter – @alangrobinson and  @deanmschroeder and visit their website – idea-driven.com .

Take Your Stand!

Living my values

On 19th September 2005, I jumped on a train that was to take me through an amazing journey. I was provided with the opportunity to work at building a brand and to lead a cause.

I’d been married to my awesome wife for just a year and a half. And our first child was on the way. Actually, she was born just four days into this new journey.

This was the first time I had gotten a job after an extensive interview. All other positions I had held before transitioned into each other. I was hired because someone had interacted with me and loved my ability. This job, however, was different. I went through a rigorous interview. When I started work, I dug into it with gusto! It combined two of my passions. What a blessing to do work that you love!

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