3 Ways Leaders Make Emotional Connections

I am honored to host a guest post by Scott Edinger, co-author of the new book The Hidden Leader. As founder of Edinger Consulting Group, Scott has worked with leaders in nearly every industry sector, helping them formulate and implement growth strategies, increase revenue and profit, develop leadership capacity, drive employee engagement, and attract and retain talent. You can connect with Scott on Twitter and LinkedIn.

When I first started working in then-Big Six consulting firm Coopers & Lybrand, the partner I was assigned to was a gentleman named Chris Abramson, and he had an enormous scale of responsibility. Yet whenever I talked with him, which was not that often, he gave me his undivided attention.

He talked with me about my goals and my development opportunities. He shared stories about life (both his and mine) outside the office. Even in our short conversations, in which he frequently was directing me to do something, he injected some kind of personal remark or comment.

Chris Abramson excelled in one of the most important — and most misunderstood — of leadership skills: making an emotional connection.

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What Will You Do Different This Year?

Do you desperately want to change your game in 2015 but feel stuck? I will soon be releasing ‘The Game-Changers Manifesto’ just for you. It will be the stepping stone to a game-changing leadership course coming to you in 2015. Watch this space…

Setting goals, I have gathered from many people, is a scary venture. It is uncomfortable. Properly structured goals by design, should get you out of your comfort zone. But I guess the most challenging part of goal-setting is how to deal with accountability.

What Will You Do Different This Year?

There are two levels of accountability. The first is to self. You are shackled down by the fear to let yourself down if you are unable to achieve your goals. The second level is exposing your goals to the world. In a sense, it revolves around becoming vulnerable. To be asked questions when you cannot resolve a conflict of your goals verses your expected results.

This thought was provoked by something Seth Godin mentioned on his blog. “The first challenge is freedom: Not just the freedom to plan your day and your projects, but the freedom to try new things, to go out all the way out to the edge, to launch things that might not work.”

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On Your Mark, Get Set… Goal!

Do you desperately want to change your game in 2015 but feeling stuck? I will soon be releasing ‘The Game-Changers Manifesto’ just for you. It will be the stepping stone to a game-changing leadership course coming to you in 2015. Watch this space…

Isn’t it amazing how complex our mindset is? We may not acknowledge or appreciate this, but unconsciously, we do what determines how we live, coexist or fight. How many times have you responded with “I am fine” even when you are struggling?

Habit dictates that you may have unconsciously completed the title above with “…Go!”. Why? Because this is what your mind has been conditioned to. From when you were a child, you remember getting on your knees, then into a ‘crouch’ position in readiness to burst out of the blocks.

Our ‘software’ (habit) was installed to expect and respond to the ‘Go!’. This is why the title could have disrupted your expectation. And to update that software, work is required to upgrade the operating system (mindset).

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My One-Word 2015 Revolution

Do you desperately want to change your game in 2015 but feeling stuck? I will soon be releasing ‘The Game-Changers Manifesto’ just for you. It will be the stepping stone to a game-changing leadership course coming to you in 2015. Watch this space…

Have you ever struggled with making New Year resolutions? Does January 1st come and by the end of the month you are back to your old ways? To be honest with you, I find the whole resolution-making process tiring and cumbersome. Over the years, I have completely ignored making any resolutions.

A good friend challenged my perspective when he asked. What is your one word for the coming year? I had never thought of such a thing before. Like a bolt of lightning, one word immediately flashed in my mind. It was CONNECT. This coming year, I want to have more meaningful and carefully selected interactions.

I will connect with myself. I will connect with my spouse and kids. I will connect with those I coach. I will connect with people. How? I will Convene, be Open, Navigate with purpose, Nourish my mind, Exercise my body, Coach more, and finally, work on being more Trusted.

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2 Simple Ways to Save Your Marriage from Drifting Apart

This is a guest post I wrote on Jackie Bledsoe’s blog. You can connect with Jackie on his blog, Twitter, and Facebook.

I can hear the melodious voice of Louis Armstrong reverberate in my mind. It transports me to another realm altogether. As it blends with my heart beat, I begin to smile. A smile that ushers in another soul into mine. My beloved wife… [FULL POST]

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5 Books That Transformed My Year

Do you desperately want to change your game in 2015 but feeling stuck? I will soon be releasing “The Game-Changers Manifesto” just for you. It will be the stepping stone to a game-changing leadership course coming to you in 2015. Watch this space…

“Leaders are readers,” says John C. Maxwell. This became a more profound truth for me in 2014. Reading to add to my knowledge and for entertainment has been a habit I have developed over time. But this was a year with a difference. I had just quit my day job and was venturing out on my own.

I felt like other people were way ahead of me and I was playing catch-up. At one time, I panicked wondering if I had made the right choice. There were two options I could not avoid at any cost: reading and growing my network of influencers.

I consumed huge amounts of content. It is in two categories. The first was to develop myself as a leader and to grow my skills. The second category was research for content development and writing my second book.

Without a doubt, there are five books that stood out for me. These are great resource I recommend for you in 2015. They will not only inspire and challenge you beyond your comfort zone.

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It’s Time To Change The Game

When life gives you a lemon, make lemonade! At some point, I got fed up with this lemonade business. There was an urgency to see a break in the ominous grey clouds that hang over me.

Why is it so hard to take the action needed to make your lot that much better? To be a game-changer, you have to will the needle to move. It means living life on the other side of fear…

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No, It’s Never Too Late To Lead!

A few months ago, an article in the local daily outlined a growing concern. There is a perceivable drop in the quality of graduates (from high school to college). And their level of preparedness for the job market is increasingly wanting.

As I pondered this, my thoughts immediately moved to how this affected society. How a seemingly innocuous process so violently affects the very existence of society. And, may I propose, how that process has had a massive impact on leadership.

This isn’t surprising at all. According to the World Economic Forum’s Outlook on the Global Agenda 2015, a staggering 86% of respondents think that there is a leadership crisis in the world today. I believe that the ‘stickiest’ leadership acumen develops in two institutions; the home and school.

It is here that we all were first socialized. We received our life’s blue-print, culture and way of thinking. Where installation of our basic operating system occurs. That platform colors our present and in turn determines our legacy to a large degree.

I drew two observations from the newspaper article mentioned above.

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Clear Clutter, Grow Your Leadership!

Today, I bring you to an environment many of us struggle with it. Some ran away from it while other people are left completely paralyzed. It is clutter! I don’t know about you, but I love order. My soul does a happy dance when everything is in its right cabby-hole.

However, I had this pile of papers on my desk that was bothering me. A pile that held some of my treasured research on personal and business development. But the trigger was what bothered me. For two days, I had a dull but consistent headache. And I knew of it too well. I have been working full-out to develop new content for my new leadership coaching program.

I realized that the clutter and headache were just symptoms. Without any further thought, I picked up the pile and spread it out on the dining table. Methodically, I separated the wheat from the chaff. Out came two files, a paper punch and a pair of scissors. I went through each document and ruthlessly discarded what I did not need. The remaining documents neatly filed away as reference material.

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Constantly Improve Your Position

The Acumen East Africa Fellows Program is a one-year, fully-funded leadership development program that gives 20 individuals from across East Africa the training they need to accelerate their social impact and leadership potential.

It was a long written application process followed by an intense telephone interview. Before I could exhale, it was time to plunge into a fast-flowing river. There was a promise of breath-taking vistas, rapids and the possibility of my kayak capsizing.

But I still launched off. And what a rush it was! This was the Acumen Fellows Selection Program for 2015. Intense, nerve-wracking and phenomenal it was. All the participants had to prepare a one-minute elevator pitch. And to make sure that we completely understood the instructions, there was ’60 seconds’ added within brackets.

There I was ready to launch my pitch. Just to make sure that I wasn’t going to flounder, I had written it out and committed the main points to memory. Thirty seconds to my pitch, everything changed in my mind. It was not a conscious thought process. It is as if something took over my thinking. My pitch vaporized into a fine mist.

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